At the end of last week I posted about a giveaway that I’m doing it with Square Organics for Valentine’s Day, I’m going to be announcing later today – don’t worry. I asked for people to tell me the positive things that they tell themselves whenever they’re frustrated. I asked them what are the things that you tell yourself to keep going, when you feel like kicking yourself down further, but know that’s not going to solve anything.
When we talk about self-love we think of the actions that we take to better ourselves physically. Maybe you’re going to go get a manicure at a local salon or you’re going to get a massage to help you relieve some stress. Maybe for you means that you are going to give yourself some time to read and have a good cup of coffee. Maybe it’s working out to get the endorphins going. More often than not we don’t think about what we say to ourselves. We don’t think about the consequences negative self speak has on our actions, our ability to push through.
I don’t think we realize how truly mean we are ourselves and times. And trust me, I believe all of us is our own worst bully. In my history, no one has anything on me. As a teenager I cut myself. As an adult I ate my anxiety and depression and put my health at risk. I doubted myself even when I proved myself wrong time and time again. I’ve given myself anxiety attacks from dwelling on others. I’ve called myself ugly, fat, selfish, pathetic, stupid, not worthy, useless. I have used the same words that others have thrown my own. Why do they think they’re so creative – like we haven’t heard those words before? Try harder than me.
Here’s what’s creative. Hitting the pause button. Stepping back. Telling yourself these words aren’t helping, self we need to have a talk about what’s going on.
Here is the list from all the entries. These are all the positive things that we want to say, should say and are saying to push through the fight – no matter what it is.
- You can do it, you’re stronger than you think.
- The struggle is short term.
- If it was easy, would it be worth it?
- Your kids are watching you.
- You’ve made it this far, you can keep going.
- You are worth it.
- You are beautiful.
- You are healthy.
- Remember why you started.
- You are capable.
- Walk with faith.
- Strive for progress, not perfection.
- Let it be.
- You choose your own happiness.
- Small choices lead to big change.
- Everything takes time.
- It gets better.
- One day at a time.
- You have so much to be proud of.
- Keep going.
- Anxiety is something I have, not who I am.
- Trust the process.
- I’ve done this before, I can do it again.
- You are loved.
- Mind over matter.
- Just keep breathing.
- You deserve to feel good.
- Don’t give up, just think about where you will be.
- You are stronger than you realize.
- Just put your mind to it.
We are our own worst enemies, but we are also the greatest loves of our lives. We can set the world on fire with passion and drive if we choose to, or we can drown in our failures, choose to not learn from them and ask for sympathy.
I choose this list. I choose these words. I choose encouragement. I choose education. I choose patience even though I have none.
I am a bigger bully, but I can also be the kindest heart. Who do you want on your team?